Let’s see what some contemporary American experts think about the Art of Conversation:
‘You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.’ – Dale Carnegie, writer, lecturer and self-improvement expert.
‘Most people do not listen with the intent to understand. They listen with the intent to reply.’ – Stephen Covey, educator, author and motivational speaker.
‘The mark of a good conversationalist is not that you can talk a lot. The mark is that you can get others to talk a lot. Thus, good schmoozers are good listeners, not good talkers.’ – Guy Kawasaki, marketing expert, author and Silicon Valley venture capitalist.
Many people may listen, but few people actually hear. – Harvey Mackay, author, business owner and speaker.
Keep silent for the most part, speak only when you must, and then briefly. Epictetus (AD 55 – 135), Greek philosopher and teacher
He is nearest to the gods who knows how to be silent. Cato the Elder (234 BC – 149 BC), Roman senator and historian
Often silence is the wisest thing for a man to heed. Pindar, (522 BC – 443BC), Greek lyric poet
Our ancestors valued silence. Shouldn’t we?
I’m thrilled with your response to my latest installment of ‘Quote-ables’ – comments I’ve made for a reporter’s article on workplace communication. Here are a few more gems you might hear often in one of my workshops: Read More
‘First learn the meaning of what you say and then speak.’
Epictetus (AD 55 – 135), Greek philosopher and teacher Read More
Business publication reporters regularly contact me for comments or input in my narrow-but-deep niches of expertise. Recently, someone asked for some original quotes about teamwork. Hope he liked them:
‘There is no ‘I’ in ‘team’, but there is a ‘me’. So make me feel welcome, valued and important if I’m on your team.’
‘There is no ‘I’ in ‘team’, but there is an ‘eat’. So, make sure you have good food at every meeting.’
‘A camel is a horse designed by a team. A giraffe is a horse designed by a cross-functional team. A rhino is a horse designed by a self-directed team. And an elephant is a horse designed by a team led by the boss.’
Hope you liked them, too.
And now, you can quote me. – Phil Stella, contemporary entrepreneur, workplace communication expert, executive coach and author.
‘The trouble with quotes on the Internet is that you can never know if they are genuine.’
— Abraham Lincoln, 1809-1865, 16th President of the United States
Last month’s piece about communication-related quotes from the movies generated some buzz and request for more. So … Lights … Camera … Action!’
Knowledge speaks; wisdom listens.’ – Andre Benjamin, ‘Jimi: All is By My side’, 2013.
‘If people only spoke when they had something to say, the human race would lose the power of speech.’ – Naomi Watts, ‘The Painted Vail’, 2006.
‘Constantly talking isn’t necessarily communicating.’ – Jim Carrey, ‘Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind’, 2004.
‘Don’t use seven words when one will do.’ – Brad Pitt, ‘Ocean’s Eleven’, 2001.
That’s a wrap …
With Oscar-mania and other movie award shows behind us for another year, let’s see what we can learn about communication from the movies.
‘The secret to talking is listening.’ – Scarlett Johansson, ‘We Bought a Zoo’, 2011
‘Learning to listen – that takes a lot of discipline.’ – Gary Cole, ‘Forever Strange’, 2008
‘Rule #1 – be a listener!’ – Robert Downey Jr., ‘Lucky You’, 2007
‘As long as you’re talking, you’re not listening.’ – Sylvester Stallone, ‘Creed’, 2015
And the Oscar goes to …
‘We have too many high sounding words and too few actions that correspond with them.’ – Abigail Adams, (1744 – 1818), American, wife of President John Adams and mother of President John Quincy Adams.
‘Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thought on the unthinking.’ – John Fletcher, (1579 – 1625), prolific and influential English dramatist of the Jacobean era.
‘Do not accustom yourself to use big words for little matters.’ – Samuel Johnson (1709 – 1784), English writer, poet and literary critic.
We can all still learn so much about communicating from Plato, the 4th century BC classic Greek philosopher, mathematician and scientist:
‘The beginning is the most important part of the work.’
‘Wise men speak because they have something to say. Fools speak because they have to say something.’
‘Those who tell the stories rule society.’
‘I’m trying to think, don’t confuse me with facts.’